I was on facebook yesterday and on my friends page there was a post from Kris Vallotton KVMinistries.com entitled 15 Attributes Of Humility. I thought it was such a good list of ways to identify your humility, or lack thereof. I have never professed to be humble but I certainly don’t think of myself as arrogant…but on reading this list I am questioning if my attitude is in line with God on some of the points. I include the list below – be warned, it stings a bit!
1- you are teachable.
2- you are influenceable.
3- you can be corrected without defending yourself.
4- you rejoice when others are celebrated.
5- no job is too small for you.
6- you don’t have to be right.
7- you naturally seek the advice of others.
8- you actually do pray.
9- you freely admit your flaws, mistakes, and failures.
10- you live to help others succeed.
11- you are not easily offended.
12- you have thankful attitude.
13- you don’t live with a sense of entitlement…you don’t feel like any one owes you something.
14- you are quick to forgive and you don’t hold grudges.
15- you are confident in who you are and content with who you’re not.
I will go on record as saying I am doing ok with 4,5 and 7-14. That is not to say that I have them all sorted and am perfectly brilliant at them, for we are all flawed – but I understand them in my spirit and see the fruits of them in my life. Numbers 1, 2, 3, 6 and 15 are the ones that really stung me.
1) You are teachable. Ultimately, as a teacher I love to be taught. I love learning and up until the last year in my walk with God I would have confidently said that I was teachable to the nth degree. And I would have been right, if we were talking of worldly things. When we speak of wordly things I have found this to be a different matter. My before-God experience and world-view memory still hangs out in the deep recesses of my heart. I know that it isn’t there for real as I was made new in Christ (2 Cor 5:17) but the memory can be powerful when I am put in a situation where a new perspective, that shatters my old one, is presented to me from the Word. I have been known to be stubborn and insist (in my heart, not openly) that the people bringing these messages are either false or misunderstood, rather than allowing for the fact that it is true and I need to change my position. This clearly shows a lack of humility on my part, really I should be taking in the information, testing it in my own study (1 Thess 5:21) and when I find it to be true, accepting it because if I don;t I am not only showing a lack of humility towards the person who brought me the message…i’m showing my arrogance in the face of God!
2) You are influenceable. I have never considered myself ‘influenceable’ largely because it feels dangerous. To allow myself to be influenced means that I could be persuaded to believe something false and that I could fall prey to a false prophet! But I am coming to realise that this isn’t what it means. It holds the same premise as forgiveness – always forgive but in a way that is safe for you. For example, if someone had tried to kill you and still haboured murderous intent, then forgiveness would have to be at a distance, not face to face. It therefore had to be safe for you and the other person. Allowing yourself to be influenced is much the same – you don;t allow ‘just anyone’ to influence your thoughts and actions, you look to those who follow Christ and who can point you towards the Word in their actions. If anything feels odd about what they are teaching/saying then it is your repsonsibility to question it through study or trusted counsel. However, it is not for you to stand rigid against any new idea/thought – because that means that you are not influenceable and therefore you are stagnant, showing others that you think you are right, not them. This is not good testimony of Christ in you. This I need to work on because there is still an element of me that remains suspicious of people and their intentions no matter how much I don’t wish to be.
3) You can be corrected without defending yourself. I am guilty of this, lots of this. when I am corrected I feel like I am being attacked and I defend. Although I am much better than I used to be, my recent growth in Christ has led me to question and answer (sometimes wrongly) many things. When others who have seen my mistake have attempted to correct it, I have taken offence and resorted to defence. I am working on this one and very much aware of it but have a way to go to fully master this reflex to defend myself and my thoughts.
6) You don;t have to always be right. This feeds into the above point in that I don’t consider myself the fount of all knowledge and can quite happily admit mistakes, this goes through the window if I feel defensive. In these situations I have to have the last word, I HAVE TO BE HEARD! What an awful character flaw that it is! This point has reminded me of the importance of communication, that building relationship is sometimes allowing the other to be ‘right’; there is little point in arguing as no one really wins an argument do they? There is always hurt and sadness that has to be redeemed – better to not have that in the first instance.
That said, in all of these points you have to use some wisdom. If someone was saying something that went exactly against the Bible for example, you cannot accept it as truth or let the other person think you have. In this instance argument is not the answer either…but repsectfully disagreeing is.)
15) You are confident in who you are and content with who you are not. This is a strange one because when I first read it I thought ‘If I am comfortable then I won’t push on, I’ll become complacent and lazy’. So a part of me thinks that a lack of contentment is needed in order to strive to be the best in Christ that we can be. However, to not be content with yourself and wish to be someone else breaks the tenth commandment of coveting and also shows that you think you know more than God. If you are not happy with your nose then you are saying that God created you incorrectly…and He didn’t. You are the only you on the earth and as Dr Seuss once said ‘No-one can be more you-er than you’.
I am definitely more confident in who I am since I accepted that I am in Christ – does that mean I have days when I doubt my worth and usefulness? Of course. This the area I need to focus on for this point. When I feel insecure or less than I need to pray and ask God and the Holy Spirit to bring to remembrance all the things that I am in Christ ‘I am loved, I am worthy, I am unique…’
In conclusion, I am not a fully humble person and neither am I arrogant outwardly, but some of my thoughts and actions inwardly show a certain degree of independence that speaks to an arrogance that I was not fully aware of until I read this list and felt the stab of realisation; sometimes my thoughts and my feelings vie for atention when they don’t deserve it, or when they could injure others needlessly. I hope this list proves useful to you to, please spend sometime looking at each point and deciding whether you need to work on any area, not for yourself but for God. as the post’s image says ‘Humility is not thining less of yourself, but thinking of yourself less.’